In every relationship, no matter if between friends or family or partners, there are periods in which you do not see eye to eye about certain issues. In my family, unfortunately, there is no face-to-face communication possible and no solution-orientated approach. Instead, there usually is silence.
When you do not talk to me
and I do not talk to you –
All we have is silence.
In this silence, the voices inside me grow louder
and give me time:
to consider our relationship neutrally
to evaluate our past rationally
and curiously think about our future
In this silence, I feel room inside of me
to be self-centered and focus on me
to explore and express my needs
to step back from my feelings
to find my center
In this silence, I remember
that I may be your daughter
and I am a grown woman;
that you may be my parents
and you are human with flaws;
that we may be related and thus automatically in a relationship
and this relationship develops like all relationships do;
that I may be open to change
and this changing relationship is not easy.
The ones that matter never are.
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