Lately, I have found it hard to switch from home office/ no social contacts at all/ no appointments and errands to the before- corona- rhythm.
And honestly, I could not do it and have realised I do not want to do it anymore. I value time at my disposal, and I appreciate not feeling rushed, having time to wander.
Therefore, I have minimized my social calendar and try to only have two appointments of mine planned per week.
Last week I went for a walk with a friend of my boyfriend’s; he is godfather to her son, and we have tried to get to know each other. We went for a walk in the woods, chatted and neither of us had somewhere to be after, so I stayed for a coffee/ chat with her husband and her, too. It was lovely and slow-paced. 🙂
My second appointment was a friend from work who came to have breakfast at our place; we ate and watched the cats, enjoyed the view from our balcony and just had a great time catching up. I enjoyed these two meetings very much, and even more so because I had the other days at my free disposal. (ok, one eve we went for dinner at my boyfriend’s mother’s house, but I do not calculate appointments we have as a couple in my 2, those I consider extra…)
Furthermore, before Corona I used to try to work getting errands done when on my way to meeting someone; e.g. I went to the pharmacy and dentist, shopped for shoes, met a friend and went grocery shopping on my way back home. This honestly seems an insane thing to me now. I mean, sure, it is cool to kind of connect a duty with something nice, as a reward; however, ticking off lists in my head does not seem satisfying anymore.
Thus, no more must-dos when on my way somewhere. When I am at a friend’s, I am there. My mind is off my to-dos – who cares if they get done today, or tomorrow? And why not actually enjoy the to-dos some other time?
Last week I dedicated a whole day to wandering around a mall, stopping where I wanted, having a smoothie, watching people, … of course, I knew what I wanted to buy, and I did. It was a wonderful day, I spoilt myself and got lots done. No appointment before, none after. Just me and the mall.
In German there is the term “entschleunigen“, which best describes what I am doing these days. Derush, demust, deshould. Make room for wandering, doing one thing calmly, enjoying where you are and who you meet: and having time for what I do (not: making time). Maybe I am insane to even think this way; however, I assure you I feel more than fine. 😋